Sex Addiction Therapy, Chicago and Wilmette. Il.
Individuals no longer seem to understand healthy parameters of a loving, consensual sexual relationship. Someone told me about a disturbing episode on Vice news. The couple on the show discussed sexual interactions between husband and wife. According to this couple, an individual must “always” ask permission to touch their partner. This meant that if a wife wanted to grab her husband’s butt she needed explicit permission from him first. The conversation went from confusing to more confusing.
Common sense has flown out the window when it comes to rules of sexual interaction. Therapists encourage couples to engage in playful, spontaneous sexual expression during sex therapy. In the above-mentioned conversation, the couple described sexual playfulness and spontaneity as bordering on abusive. This commentary is completely ridiculous.
Your sexual intimacies as a couple should not be dictated by what reporters, television shows, or what culture defines as politically correct. Your sexual relationship with your partner should include mutually agreed upon loving interactions between the two of you. Romantic exchanges between the two of you may include spontaneous, erotic, and romantic sexual expressions.
What makes good sex? Good sex results from shutting off our big brains, while engaging in good communication, and focusing on pleasure. When a couple feels comfortable and safe with each other they can ask for what turns them on without fear of scorn or rejection. When you communicate well with your partner it’s very difficult for either one or the other to feel misunderstood or threatened by touching. If you don’t like it if your husband grabs your breasts while you’re doing some chore tell him. Most often couples want to please each other.
If you find that you are struggling with communication or sexual issues either as an individual or in your marriage don’t hesitate to call Dr. Goschi to schedule your appointment. Dr. Goschi can be reached at (312)595-1787 or by email at barbara@drgoschi.com