Couples don’t know what to expect when they seek sex therapy. Many couples fear talking about their intimate feelings about their sexual life. They worry that their partner may scorn or reject them. Fears about addressing sexual issues mount when the couple also exhibits communication problems. After all, it takes good communication skills and risk taking to enjoy a fulfilling sexual relationship.
So, what happens in sex therapy? First, the therapist gathers a thorough history of your sexual experiences. The couple offers their sex history together and as individuals. The couple also writes down their sexual preferences and style to be shared later in a session. This method helps ease the couple into talking about their sexual life. The therapist also addresses any fears and anxieties which stand in the way of honest reporting.
Some individuals fear talking about sex will take the mystery out of their sexual relationship. Not so. Understanding what turns your partner on only enhances the sexual relationship. Therapy strives to convert “mystery” into understanding. Let’s not conflate mystery with romance. Romance does not die when you know what excites your partner – you can think of creative ways of incorporating their desires into your sexual repertoire. Think of sex therapy as exploring ideas and wishes about sex and then exploring new ways of sexually interacting at home.
The couples’ expanded sexual knowledge of each other helps move the therapy forward. Sex therapy can augment any couples work you have completed. Sex therapy helps the individual/couple learn more about themselves and their partners in a safe environment. Yes, I said individual as some clients wish to work on dysfunctional sexual behaviors that interfere with establishing a more fulfilling intimate relationship. You and Dr. Goschi talk about sexual issues at your own pace. Dr. Goschi’s treatment style is nonjudgmental.
If you live in the Chicago area and find that you have sexual issues in your relationship Dr. Goschi can help you explore better ways of expressing yourselves. Sex therapy can help couples better their intimate relationships. Sex therapy can also help individual’s who struggle to form sexual bonds while dating. Don’t hesitate to call today I’m here to help and you can reach me by email barbara@drgoschi.com or phone at (312)595-1787.